The Truth of Happiness

I’ve had several people comment on my social media lately. Most of the comments have been, “you are so great, look how many fun places you take your kids.”  When they say this I admittedly feel a little embarrassed and think, ‘yes, that was a great picture, but that was an awful outing with the kids.’  I’ve also had mom’s say, ‘I need to be a better mom and go and do things with my kids.’ However, I’ve seen that same mom reading to her kids and I think, “I really need to read more to my kids like she does!”

We need to stop comparing ourselves!  As much as we say we don’t do it, we all do. Why do we belittle ourselves because of someone else’s talents and neglect our own? Can I let you in on a little secret? We are not always the best moms, but we are all trying. The pictures on social media are only a small snippet of a bigger story. Let me show you…

DSC_1668 DSC_1672DSC_1663Here are a few pictures I put up on social media. Looks like loads of fun right? We took the kids up to Snowbasin to see the fall leaves and do some ‘mountain biking’. They have cute little trails for kids and a fun playground. Looking back now I think,  ‘oh that was fun’.

REALITY: It was cold so we bundled up. We got up there and the baby blew out so she is actually pantless, thus the blanket. My oldest threw a tantrum because we didn’t get to ride the gondola and my middle child had an accident (#2!) which ended the trip all together and resulted in the loss of some superhero underwear and the desecration of some pants. Do you know what my Instagram post said? “A great outing to Snowbasin to see the leaves!” 

IMG_5067Situation #2: I thought I would be a great mom and get my kids a kitten.  My kids absolutely love it.

Truth: It’s an outdoor cat only (think farm cat for all you cat lovers).  The first day we got it that kitten jumped up into the engine of my car. Um, hello cat do you have a death wish? Luckily, I saw her go up. First, I tried to poke it with a broom, which only made it hate me. Next, I tried honking the horn to make it jump out, which probably only made it go deaf. Then I thought, cat’s hate water right? So, I grabbed a hose and tried to squirt it out. This last idea made the cat jump up into a smattering of wires and tubes and create a noose for itself. So now the cat was really close to committing suicide.  I then went into a panic and jumped under the hood, reached my arm into oobers of oil, and grabbed the scratching and biting cat.  When I finally got it, it was mad and covered with oil.  Then I had to give the cat a bath to get all the oil off! HAVE YOU EVER GIVEN A CAT A BATH!?!  They despise it.  Think deep growls and A LOT of scratching.

   But you know what I posted to instagram?  This cute picture of my girl holding her little baby  (ELSA) with both of them covered in blue stamps because that ridiculous cat is her best buddy.
IMG_4589Situation #3: Swim lessons, an essential part of summer around here.
Truth: My little girl loved it! My little boy, not so much. Private swim lessons consisted of tears, my newborn being shoved off to some stranger who was watching her kids swim, and a fully clothed mom walking through the pool with her kid to ease his anxiety.  Nothing like wet undies right?!  Do you know what the Instagram post said, “My cute little swimmers!” as if this was a fun experience.

 

Now before you think I’m a Gretchen grumbler, let me tell you this.  After going through all of these experiences, I actually do look back at them and they bring me happiness!  They are all such fun memories even if they were disastrous in the moment! I may not have handled everything with ease and a smile, but we are all alive right?

When ever I come back from outings and my mom asks me how it went I tell her it was ‘Mom Fun’.  This means that it was a ton of work for me but the kids had fun. Which is the definition of how moms actually have fun.  The moral of the post is that even though some things seem like a ton of work to go do with your kids, GO AND DO IT! These experiences teach your children and give them knowledge! Don’t sit and compare yourself to other peoples wonderful lives because you have no idea what it is really like. You have the opportunity today to be the best mom YOU can be!photo 3 (4)

Lastly, here is a picture of my siblings and I who recently ran a race with my dad.  2 years ago this month he was diagnosed with cancer. It was a difficult time for him and our family. Right now he is in remission which we are thankful for. I tell you this story to remind us all that we never know what life will throw at us and sometimes it won’t be fun or easy. However, when people are gone and kids are grown all we will have are the memories we made.

 Life is for living, kids are for loving, and motherhood is for becoming. So stop worrying about what other people think and find out what happiness is all about by creating your own!

Note: If you’re looking for an adventurous blog, check out Bring The Kids it’s one of my favorite blogs! It’s about taking your kids with you through lifes adventures! Right now their cute little Colorado family is traveling through Egypt!!! Awesome!

 

 

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8 Responses to The Truth of Happiness

  1. Jennie October 7, 2014 at 12:24 pm #

    Love it! Thanks for keeping it real Stace!! We really are all in the same mom boat and we need to remember that. I recently had these same thoughts because I didn’t want to go anywhere when my kids would just make my life difficult. Then I realized that all my kids would remember is that we never did anything, not that it was their behavior that kept us gone. So I slapped on a smile and we try to get out every day. Even if we only make it to the backyard. Thanks for sharing your perspective!!

  2. Kristine Eccles October 7, 2014 at 12:32 pm #

    Thank you Stacie! You made my whole day with your cute stories your sweet honesty! You are a great mother!

  3. mindy October 7, 2014 at 1:11 pm #

    I love this post! It’s the absolute truth of motherhood and social media. You’re awesome!

  4. Kristin October 7, 2014 at 1:52 pm #

    Your cat story reminds me of your mom…or me for that matter. I think we went through 9 kittens before we got some that lived past their first birthday. Do you remember that we took 2 of your kitties, they climbed up on the top of the car wheels while we were in the house. Later when we left, no more kitties. The kids were traumatized and we had to go to your house and get two more.

  5. Cristy Shields October 7, 2014 at 7:11 pm #

    I love you and your blog! Thanks for sharing. I needed to read and see this post!

  6. Nidia October 8, 2014 at 2:58 pm #

    just beautiful!

  7. Andrea B. October 10, 2014 at 8:49 am #

    Thanks for this great post. It is so true! We post and talk about the great aspects of the day, but rarely are honest (on social media) about the event. I love definition of Mom Fun. For me it is the same concept as a trip verses a vacation. A vacation would be a time that I get to relax. If I bring my kids along, it is a trip – full of planning and chaos and a short temper. it is in no way a vacation.

  8. Jessica October 11, 2014 at 1:28 pm #

    Okay, now that I am back from my trip and am reading this again, I feel like I should show some pictures of our blisters, scraped knees, and completely trashed car…you know, to keep it all real!!!

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